Back in Singapore Day 672

Cloudy, 24 29 degree Celsius.

啊,最近真的是忙忙忙!要不是病倒了,也不会有时间进来!

我喜欢这样的忙忙忙,因为生活过得很充实。但同时也深深的体会到时间不够用的"真谛"。是呀,如果一天有50个小时,那该有多好啊!除了工作和筹备以后的事,我也是很享受休息的,所以真的需要多一点时间!

每天起来第一件事就是想一想那天的行程,再查看手机那天要开的会议、要见的人、要预约的事。虽然还不是我想要的那种生活,自己慢慢在朝那个方向前进!

其实仔细的想想,还蛮庆幸自己还没嫁人。当然有时是希望那个他会”pop the question”。。可是有了家庭后,就没有办法做到我想要的,无法达成自己的理想,更不用想什么梦想。最理想的情况就是在结婚之前赶快达成自己的梦想,那人生就真的无憾了!

Or maybe, I just have commitment phobia, thus the above are just excuses?? There are many quality men around me, but after many failed attempts in relationships, I have turned very wary of men. I am seriously worried about choosing someone who turns out to be unsuitable for me!!

每个人的理想和梦想都不同,你的又是什么呢?如果现在还没想到,不如就趁现在就好好静一静,想一想。无论如何,都希望大家都能过上自己想要的生活!大家一起加油哦,生活会越来越美好!

在此也祝所有的母亲(尤其是我的),母亲节快乐!希望您过的健康、开心!

Ps:爸爸买了robotic vacuum cleaner,很贵很贵,但现在不用自己或妈妈扫地、抹地了,超爽!哈哈!!

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Back in Singapore Day 595

Thunderstorm, 2432 degree Celsius.

最近的我,很茫然、很郁闷,非常非常超级无敌烦!!

愕然发现,原来社会是这样的。。不是自己有多努力,老板有多喜欢/欣赏自己,自己的作品有多令人赞叹,就能怎么样。还有很多环境的因素要被考验。我自问自己已经尽力了,事实上老板和客户都对我的作品比满意还要满意。可是,最后却败给了环境和一些与能力无关的因素上。。我努力地打拼,可以做的,我几乎都做了,现在 the ball is in their court,我已经不懂该怎么做了,也没什么能够做的。有句话,终于应验在我身上了:计划赶不上变化。我讨厌这样子的变化!

现在不懂怎么办,因为已经由不得我来作主了。也不知道是否应该继续无止尽地等下去。毕竟在新加坡,真的很难找到自己喜欢的工作,而老板也对自己不错(到目前为止)。真的是 “My faith is shaking” 。要等,还是不等?我真的不知道。

有时在想,新加坡是不是容不下我?是否我真的应该再次出走,去到另一个国家、另一个城市打拼?最近和高中的老师联系,他说,我应该趁年轻,多出去走走看看,走遍多几个国家。我也想,但看到母亲这样,我不忍心。。

有时又在想,难道,阿联酋就是我的宿命?迪拜是天意?一年前的我,想也不用想,直接飞去了。但如今,我已经不能像以前那么任性了,要考虑的事情实在太多太多了。。

烦!!我什么都不想要,只想好好的工作,难道这样的要求也太过分了?

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Back in Singapore Day 578

Fair, 2432 degree Celsius.

Yesterday, I was invited to a lunch networking and filming event at Dignity Kitchen.

Initially, I thought that it’s just a marketing event whereby guests would be introduced to Dignity Kitchen and what we can do to help out. However, it turned out otherwise. More than just mere introduction, Mr Koh, CEO and founder of Dignity Kitchen repeatedly stressed about perserverance and determination. He was a M & A (Merger and Acquisition) consultant and a very famous personnel in India and China who authored 3 books about success. With such a high social standing and huge paycheck, he could have just continued with his M & A consultancy firm and enjoyed a wealthy life.

Yet, unlike most other people who only thought about themselves (me included), Mr Koh felt disheartened when he came back to Singapore from Britain to find elderlys clearing tables in hawker centres. Now, this is something he found very strange. He said ,”There is a difference between the NEED to work, and the WANT to work”. Wow, that struck a chord with me. I have never given much thought about elderlys clearing tables.. In fact, it has become such a common sight in Singapore nowadays that it has become 理所当然. That was also about time when he decided that somebody should set up Dignity Kitchen to help the less fortunate in our society.

Although Dignity Kitchen is still relatively quite new and small in scale compared to other more established F & B organisations, I believe that it will be the next big thing in the scene. We really liked the idea of this project and their mission: “To build and return the dignity to the disabled and disadvantaged through vocation with passion”. I hope that I can help them probably in terms of marketing their business so that more people are aware of this great social enterprise. Also hope that Dignity Kitchen will continue to help the disadvantaged in Singapore and elsewhere, so that they too, are able to lead a normal independent life.

Through the event, I learnt that great projects and great people do not succeed purely by luck. In fact, they are the people who met the most obstacles. The biggest difference between these successful people and normal not-as-successful ones is perserverance and determination. It made me feel so small and guilty.. Mr Koh had to pass so many hurdles to set up Dignity Kitchen. With his social status and wealth, he could have just given up easily. But he didn’t. He perservered. He was confident. He was determined to succeed. And for his students? They too, perservered to blend into our society, even when circumstances made it super difficult for them. They did not give up.

I admit I am at my lowest during this period of time. I believe that this invitation to this event is a gift and message sent from God to tell me not to give up. I will continue to push on with my cause and perservere to get what I want. I am confident I can do it and I WILL do it!!

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Back in Singapore Day 576

Sunny, 2532 degree Celsius.

Wow, I don’t remember when was the last time I’m using my lappie to type a blog post.

Have been feeling depressed these 2 weeks. I procrastinate and think too much when I am free, and all these negativities are leading to depression and anxiety! I guess, I really cannot be free!!

It’s really hard.. not to think too much, considering I’m a natural worrier (nope, that doesn’t imply I’m a pessismist or negative person).. when things aren’t progressing the way I envision it to be. I understand that giving and taking are all parts and parcel of life and I cannot be getting what I want all the time. However, recent events have led this “want” into a necessary “need”. How can I not worry then?? With things keep getting pushed around and yes, I can feel the planetary movements, I worry where I will end up at eventually. Moreover, the Europe crisis is not helping me in any way!

I don’t know what I should/should not do. I don’t know what I should/should not think. And the crux of it all, I don’t know where I should/should not end up at. He tells me not to think too much.. But I can’t help feeling highly insecure.. And it’s making me crazy..

After these 2 weeks (which honestly felt like a lifetime) of depression, I finally came to my senses that.. since I have already done what I think I should do to secure what I want, and I can only wait for the ball to come back to my court, I should do something to upgrade my life, thereby making me a better person who is better prepared for the upcoming challenges ahead. Ultra long sentence indeed. Even if things don’t progress smoothly *choy!!*, by then I would already have become a better person than I am today.

So I am reading a lot. And meeting/interacting with a lot of people. In the 2 weeks, I have almost finished reading (twice) all the motivational/self-imporvement books I own. I’m thinking, maybe I should start reading textbooks etc to learn new skills and acquire more work-related knowledge. But I don’t know where to start? I’ll figure that out in no time. In addition, I’m also starting a new exercise regime which I really hope I can stick to. I need some much-needed oxygen on top of (toned) muscles and improved circulation. Even if I don’t, at least I feel better knowing that I’m treating my body well. Also, I’m slowly making myself sleep earlier. This one needs some gradual getting used to. Like 30 mins earlier every night, and waking up earlier every morning. It’s true that I’m still getting horrible nightmares of my worst fears every night, thus making me wake up in tears every 2 hours (used to be every 1 hour), but I have to believe in myself that I CAN DO IT!!

Now, I look forward to a better me and better opportunities ahead! I shall go full steam ahead and realise all my goals one at a time!! 80% perserverance and determination + 20% work = 100% success!!

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Back in Singapore Day 542

Sunny, 24 – 31 degree Celsius.

最近非常关注尼日利亚那里动荡的情况,它让我很不安!睡也睡不好!我真的很希望这起事件可以扭转我的局面,不用过去谈生意!

要是最后老板还是不答应,我真的不懂应该如计划进行,继续签约,还是扭头就走?如果跟着计划如期进行,我就能快一点实现我的梦想,但是会常常提心吊胆的,还有令家人朋友担心;要是拒绝,就没有可能那么快达成梦想(我说的是几年的差别,不仅仅是几个月而已),不过还留的青山在,还有柴烧。

真的祈祷一切能和我想要的那样进行!

(哈哈,没想到我2012年的第一个post尽然是一堆的担忧!虽然如此,我依然相信,2012将会是个好年!大家新年快乐!加油加油!)

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Back in Singapore Day 534

Clear, 24 – 30 degree Celsius.

不知不觉中,已经到了年底,我也已经回来1.5年了。时间的赛跑、岁月的流逝,让人惊叹:怎么就这样又过了1年??

对我而言,2011真的是个烂年,从年头就开始坐过山车,一直到现在才要到终点。一切都大喜大悲,没有什么时候是真正平静的。

事业方面,真的是忙忙忙,但又觉得很像空忙一场。今年的我,可以说把这个社会看得比较清楚、透彻,发现和我原来认为的,差太多了。所有课堂上学的道德理念等等,原来只停留在课堂里。每个人似乎都在"人不为己,天诛地灭"里活着,已经失去了应有的道德观。原来充满朝气和美好憧憬的我,进入了社会后,发现我原有的信念,根本不存在这个尔虞我诈的社会里。令我最痛的是,在现实里,医疗是可以挂上价格标签(price tag)的。我也只不过是个凡人,当然也想赚很多钱,但绝对不是用这样的方法。反正,这里的医疗保健,让我很灰心。所以我不断地再思考,自己选择的这条路,到底是不是正确的。我无法做出让自己违背良心的事。这样说好像有点言重了。应该说,我无法 do things against my conscience or principles and earn money at the expense of others。也许,我应该现在就跳车。用其他的方法赚钱,来完成自己大大小小的梦想。

感情方面更是糟糕,好像乱七八糟!被我搞的一塌糊涂。也让我痛的喘不过气。当身边有多一个人的时候,考虑的事情多了。而有时不得不把自己想要的放下。但当两个人看到的终点是不同的时候,只有无奈的放手。我承认,我这次是痛彻心扉,也已经是崩溃了。。现在回想起来心里还是会刺痛。。但只能这样继续无奈下去,也默默地祝福对方能过着他想要的日子,能达成他的梦想。

2012年,我要起程了。不想再虚度观音在那里procrastinate和原地踏步。现在有的好机会,我会好好、牢牢地把握,一切都要按大计划进行。不能再天马行空,认为世界那么完美。我要在2012年里创造我的事业,2014年达成我的梦想!感情方面。。我只有放下 and move on 的选择。。但这次我会好好的挑选,不要再有被某些激素冲昏头脑的现象发生。顺其自然。

最后,我非常期待2012年的到来,也迫不及待向2011挥手。2012,加油,冲啊!!

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Back in Singapore Day 498

Showers, 2429 degree Celsius.

又是好长一段时间没有上来更新啦!

最近真的真的好忙呀!也无时无刻都有好多东西想要在这里分享,可是就是没有时间!每天忙完了后,都累死了。哈哈,现在终于有点时间上来写,但是突然又不知道应该从何说起。。

有一句话,我觉得真的是很经典:塞翁失马,焉知非福。这有点和运气有关。然后还有,就是要肯做、努力。所以,努力 + 机会 + 运气 = 成功。往往,机会和运气是无法自己掌控的,不过要懂得辨认机会、抓准时机。还有,努力也是至关重要的。

前些日子,有2份机会,其中一份最后被剥夺了,所以剩下一份。当时的我,是有点失望,有点不知所措的。不过,当天晚上,我看到FaceBook上有人发帖子,说急需一位英语/华语翻译员。我觉得好像是天意,因为我是在她发的1分钟内看到的。之后还有不少人报名,但因为我第一时间看到了,所以机会就让给我了。报名的时候,其实是没有想太多的,只不过觉得那个$$$报酬很高,然后又有免费的午餐以及车子载送到家里,一心只想好好做,说不定做的满意,以后还有大把这样的机会介绍给我。

作为一位译员,我觉得工作的范围不仅仅只是翻译而已,更重要的是,要让客户有种宾至如归的感觉。换句话说,其实就是代表了国家和公司的形象。在这段休息的期间,我发觉我的强项也许就是在PR的方面。因此,那天的工作,尽管我翻译的不是很好,但我还是做得挺轻松自在的。可能是因为我的“轻松自在”,也让我的客户轻松自在了,所以在短短的2小时内,就把他们2天的行程要做的东西办好了。本来只是半天的工作,由于客户还蛮满意我的表现的,结果就延长到了1.5天(一共是大概13小时)的工作,而酬劳也多了2倍。对于我而言,反正做的那么轻松开心,当然乐意奉陪啦,简直就是求之不得!而且这样的酬劳,大概是一般白领3-4天的工资了吧。

我喜欢和不同的人互动、交流,因为可以从他们的身上学到不少的东西。所以呢,我得到的不仅仅是金钱上的报酬,更可贵的是我从客户身上学到的知识。最令我出乎意料的是,两边的客户都希望我能够进他们的公司工作。起初还以为他们只是说说罢了,没想到是认真的。其中一份是超高薪的,因为是(某上市公司)董事长的左右手,所以衣食住行都由公司负责,基本上自己不需要花到一分钱。而且又能到处飞来飞去。还有就是,肯定的是,会进入上流社会,对我以后要做的项目,是很有帮助的。但是基于某些原因,也经过了反复的思考和与不同的人交谈,最后决定推掉它了。。然后还有另外一份,薪水也是很不错,比一般的中医薪水高出蛮多的,也有一直飞来飞去的机会,而最重要的是有机会学习做生意的技巧。但是说了那么多,我只会把我的名字签下了后,才会觉得真实。不会在这个时候沾沾自喜,因为在一切都还没成定局时,皆有可能会有变数(touch wood)。所以就拭目以待吧。

好了,我要下线了,明天还有一个饭局!!明天起将是另一个忙碌的2周!

真诚希望一切顺利、安好!!我会加倍努力的!加油!!

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Back in Singapore Day 475

Clear, 2430 degree Celsius.

为什么你一直挂我的电话?就算再忙,也应该说一声吧。Msn你、发简讯给你,又不回。本来想计划一下去找答案的,我看我已经知道答案了。是我太天真了。本来还在想是不是自己太幼稚了。不过后来仔细一想,觉得真心对一个人好,不应该是这样的。就算是再普通不过的朋友,也不应该是这样的。我好痛。我们连普通朋友都不是,更不用提好朋友了。真想把冰箱里的whisky全都喝光。

最怕自己已经决心自己过没有你,却又突然,听到你的消息。

不会再有这样的机会了。我会删除一切,不会再出现在你面前了。

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Back in Singapore Day 474

Rainy, 2429 degree Celsius.

五月天
≪突然好想你≫

最怕空气突然安静
最怕朋友突然的关心
最怕回忆 突然翻滚绞痛着 不平息
最怕突然 听到你的消息

想念如果会有声音
不愿 那是悲伤的哭泣
事到如今 终于让自己属于 我自己
只剩眼泪 还骗不过自己

突然好想你 你会在哪里
过得快乐或委屈
突然好想你 突然锋利的回忆
突然模糊的眼睛

我们 像一首最美丽的 歌曲
变成两部悲伤的 电影

为什么你 带我走过最难忘的旅行
然后留下 最痛的纪念品

我们
那么甜那么美那么相信
那么疯那么热烈的曾经
为何我们
还是要奔向各自的幸福和遗憾中老去

突然好想你 你会在哪里
过得快乐或委屈
突然好想你 突然锋利的回忆
突然模糊的眼睛

最怕空气突然安静
最怕朋友突然的关心
最怕回忆 突然翻滚绞痛着 不平息
最怕突然 听到你的消息

最怕此生 已经决心自己过 没有你
却又突然
听到你的消息

哎,我想我也不必多说什么了,歌词已经充分地帮我表达了。是否当初的决定是错误的?是否当初的我应该留下?是否留下来会比较好过一些?我真的好想知道答案。。上天是否会给我这个机会去找寻答案?忍忍忍,千万不能做出疯狂的举动!!可是,我的防卫墙快要倒塌了,啊啊啊。。现在只能边流泪,边希望。。

突然好想你。。

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Back in Singapore Day 467

Clear, 24 – 31 degree Celsius.

I know I know, it has been exactly one month since my last post. Had actually planned to write on my 25th birthday and my trip to malacca, but been too busy writing letters and doing translations recently.

The reason I’m blogging at this ungodly hour is that.. Something just happened downstairs about 1 hour ago.

At 12 midnight exactly (I know it’s 12mn exactly as I was watching Animal Planet and the new show was just beginning), there was a loud crash and obvious skidding of a vehicle downstairs. Even my dad was awakened, so you can actually imagine how loud it was. Then there was a lot a lot a lot of smoke coming from the vehicle that had overturned. Next thing I knew, there was a strong smell of burnt tires floating into my room. And many people ran to the scene of the accident, so did the paramedics stationed downstairs. The casualty was wheeled to the hospital within a few minutes. There is police now and the 2 vehicles are still there.

Anyway, that’s not the point. Accidents happening and the sirens of ambulance never fail to cause an adrenaline rush reaction on me, even till now. I guess my stint at the A&E department during my internship has made me very sensitive to accidents. And all of a sudden, I see flashbacks of my whole internship period. They were playing very quickly in front of me.

It suddenly dawned on me. The reason why I’ve been so unhappy with my jobs and stuff. Reality sunk in after I started working. And reality darkened my ideal picture of my dream job. I shan’t comment what is the said “reality” but I can tell you that it isn’t pretty. In fact, far from that. I start to hate it. And to make things worst, there are way too many restrictions in my area of specialisation here. I wanted to go back to Nanjing badly. Working at the provincial hospital was taxing, but enjoyable.

In my quest to go back, I’ve been too caught up in the money race – so much so that I’ve lost sight of what first prompted me to want to have so much money. Along the way, I have fallen so many times that I’ve lost count. I start to lose faith. I start to sway. I start to wander off the main track. I am on the verge of giving up.

However, with this newfound realisation, I have pumped up enough courage to go back to the main track and continue my journey. Yes, even though my passion and dreams lie in helping, saving and changing lives, I need money to realise them. I also need money to feed my family.

There is a saying which my favourite professor always says: all routes lead to Rome. Yes, the main goal must always be in sight, but there are many ways to reach it. Some take a longer time, while others (and with considerable amount of luck), take a shorter time to reach the end goal.

Well, now that my main goal is clear again, I will push ahead with 100% of my heart and soul. With a higher level of enthusiasm, I am pretty sure the Law of Attraction will reciprocate. Gogogo, I can do it!!

On a side note, I guess maybe I should move on with my life.. Life is too short to live in sorrow. Work things in my favour instead of waiting for things to happen. I will work hard in all aspects of my life 🙂 You will see the old me again soon enough 🙂

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